Heinz Kohut also considered a degree of narcissism to be necessary for a child to develop a sense of

individuality. Are you more likely to choose friends who admire you (mirroring), or whom you admire (idealizing)? Or do you

choose friends who are similar to you, and who help you to develop a realistic sense of self (twinship)? In each instance, is your

choice an overwhelming desire, or just one aspect of choosing your friends?